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Keeping Family Connections Alive is Important

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A few days ago, something happened that inspired me to write again here. I’m sure you remember John, the newly found cousin I wrote about in 2016. Back then, we visited him and his family in the rural area where they lived and had a really fun day, learning about their hunting in the nearby wilderness, and about their awesome gun collection.

After this outing, we said we would meet up soon and we even promised to make annual hunting trips. In the first two years, we managed to keep the promise of organising hunting trips every year – however, after that, we got caught up in different things and it was difficult to stick to this promise. The distance was also a bit problematic since they moved to an even more remote area.

Fast forward to this past Tuesday. I called John’s house to see if we can resume this year’s hunting trip. I had planned an even bigger group of our family members joining this time, as I had been telling them about our trips with John and some other relatives also showed interest to join. His wife Helen answered the phone and told me that John was in the hospital for a few days now, recovering from a heart intervention. The intervention consisted of a surgical procedure called a heart bypass, also known as coronary bypass surgery.

Apparently, John had been experiencing chest pain, which he first dismissed as just a cold. But as it got more severe, they decided to go to the hospital. As it turned out, the arteries that were supplying his heart muscle with blood were narrowed, which resulted in less blood flowing into his heart. This, in turn, caused the severe chest pain he was having. I was shocked: he seemed so healthy with all those nature walks and life in the country in general, I honestly would have never thought that at his age he would be having these kinds of issues.

I was really sad to hear this news; I was also a bit angry that I didn’t try to meet up more, despite the fact that he lived so far away. The next day, I visited him at the hospital. He seemed okay, happy to be alive, and preparing to be released soon. I noticed that he didn’t wanna talk about the surgery, so I tried to avoid the subject and keep the conversation casual. He bragged instead about his new tankless water heater in his new home, teaching me about how to troubleshoot problems connected with it. In the back of my mind, however, I kept thinking about the risks that he would have to get used to now. Life will not be the same for him anymore, and he may need another bypass if the arteries get clogged again. But I learned my lesson, I really care about my cousin John and even though he lives far away, I intend to make an effort to meet him more often from now on. You never know when you may end up losing the people you care about.

Thank God for Instructions with Pictures

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We bought a plug & play hot tub and were very excited about having a place for the family to gather and enjoy. If you want to save money, you shouldn’t asked for it to come fully assembled and ready for installation. The supplier will charge you for the privilege. Being pretty handy at things, we decided to give it a try on our own. Thank God for instructions with pictures. The manual was thorough, no doubt a reflection of the fact that people aren’t good at simple verb al descriptions.

The bottom of the unit is foam insulation, so the unit appears to need uniform support whether on the ground, wood grid platform, deck or concrete pad. We built a frame on the ground about 6″ high and filled it with gravel for uniform support. You could put it directly on the ground but rain splash or tub overflows might take their toll by allowing water to seep in underneath and eventually cause rot or corrosion. I recommend lifting it up a bit to allow drainage and prevent water damage underneath.

The Lifesmart Simplicity Plug and Play 4-person spa we chose to purchase has the same standard parts and features as any brand name hot tub, such as Balboa topside controls, adjustable jets, and a top-loading filter, but also features a highly indestructible shell. The tub is a 110 volt Plug & Play spa. This feature avoids the high cost of hot tub installation. Simply set it up, fill it up and plug it in. Only Lifesmart uses what they Eco Smart technology, the highly efficient energy management system built into every hot tub spa. It require less energy and deliver better performance due to a full-foam insulation system and a thick energy-saving spa cover designed to save money on the operation of the spa. The feature I like about the Lifesmart is that it has 4 deep bucket seats complete with rotating back jets, a waterfall, and top-side comfort valves that allow you to find the perfect mix of air and water for the perfect massage. The Simplicity also features a top side digital command center and a spa light with interchangeable mood lens caps. We read it all in the manual so we understood just what we were getting.

The first time we got in our new plug and plat hot tub we were enthralled with the warmth of the water and the soothing effectiveness of the jet sprays. It wasn’t a lengthy assembly so we got right in. This was going to be a wonderful summer. Everyone would come and visit to join in.

We had to keep lots of cold beverages in the cooler alongside the unit and plenty of snacks on hand. After all, it became the hub of family water recreation. Just sitting and talking was fun. It was relaxing and restorative. The kids would have liked a bit more space for splashing but this is an adult activity to be sure.

Family Reunion

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I love being in charge of the family history website. It is part of my love and fascination for genealogy and related research. I welcomed being assigned this role. I have constructed an extensive family tree that includes extended family on all sides. There is always some event going on that has to be chronicled and I do it willingly. I try to be in the middle of family activity and to get to include everyone as they can. All people in my circle like to check out the website for the descriptions and photos that also appear on Instagram and Facebook. I want to be comprehensive. I get suggestions now and then and follow them to the letter. This means that people are participating and reading my posts. I am about to write a new one. It will follow the next family reunion, which will take place in a few days and is expected to be a blowout with at least fifty people in attendance.

The reunion is at my house and the challenge for me now is how to entertain all the kids. There are quite a few and they don’t like to sit idly while the adults chat amongst themselves. I have to think about this. I could have games or they can play ball. That is not very original. I could hire some kind of person for entertainment such as someone who makes balloon animals. I like that idea and I think it will stick, but I need more. I started emailing friends and got some suggestions in no time flat. One said a sure bet is a bounce house for the kids. Kids never tire of jumping around inside amid all the small balls that cover them. I was so relieved to have a solution to my quest. My job now was to find a rental company that had the lowest price. These are not cheap if the bounce house is large and that is what I wanted.

There are many local vendors so all I had to do was pick a theme. Not all of them stocked the most popular houses. There was a long waiting list for castles, spooky houses, and cartoon themes. Most kids don’t care as long as they can play, but I decided to take a survey from their parents to see what would work best. Just go with the cheapest they all said. Why worry about securing a particular house. Okay, that was fine with me. The day of the reunion the bounce house made its appearance an hour before the guests arrived. It was a colorful construction with no particular decoration. It had the requisite ball floor. It could accommodate many kids at one time. Immediately upon spying the bounce house, the kids went for it. It was a hit and became the focal point of the reunion party for the younger generation. You bet that I took a lot of photos to document the fun.

Sick of Feeling Sick

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If you have your health, you have everything, or so the saying goes. It means more to you than all the money in the world and most people would trade their riches for feeling good, especially if they have some sort of ailment. It takes on a toll on the psyche to always be feeling sick. You, in effect, get sick of it. You look for medical solutions and visit multiple physicians in search of the Holy Grail of allergy remedies, for example. Allergies are persistent and hard to combat. Not all over the counter medications work, and those what do make you feel sleepy. Allergy sufferers, you know of what I speak. We are all in the same boat. We search the Internet for that miracle cure and it turns out to be some sort of bogus pill or vitamin. I feel bad at certain times of the year when the weather wreaks havoc on my allergies.

I got so desperate that I joined an allergy support group. People meet and divulge their particular problems and what solutions they adopt. If nothing else, we give each other moral support about all the watery itchy eyes, the sneezing and stuffed up nose. Oh, if only we could breathe a deep breath. How marvelous that would be. At one meeting, a doctor attended to give a lecture since he was a specialist. He suggested a humidifier for allergies that we could add to all our other remedies. He has read studies and talked with patients and the evidence shows that these humidifiers do help. He brought some literature with him and passed it out. He also had made contact with a vendor who would sell the proper recommended humidifier to members of the group for a discount. All we had to do was to offer a testimonial for public advertising if they worked.

After the humidifiers had been given out, we all used them for an agreed upon month. We then met again and compared notes. Everyone agreed enthusiastically about the efficacy of the appliance when used along with normal allergy medication. When you have allergies you have to purify the air in your home and keep it sparkling clean and free from allergens and pollutants. The humidifier adds moisture to line the nasal and throat passages to make you feel more comfortable when you are having an attack. We wrote a thank you note to the vendor and each one added a heartfelt testimonial that he could use to show prospective clients. As for the doctor, he was so grateful that he agreed to keep pamphlets in his office for other patients.

It is clear that it takes several solutions combined to help everyone with allergies because they are often of a different kind. Ask your doctor and your pharmacist what they recommend among the many products found on the store shelves. Then get the best home humidifier and set it up in your bedroom.

Newly-Found Family

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My passion for genealogy has led me to find new relatives I had never met before. This is one of the great benefits of the research. There are always some surprises. It is one of those on-going never ending projects you can pursue for life. Thanks to the Internet, you have ample resources. You have to be persistent and inquisitive and use every clue you get as a lead. Each one takes you to a new place. The new family I uncovered resided in the country and they invited us for a visit. We were eager to go in spite of the distance. When we got together at last, we shared our lives up to the present and everyone added a new fact to the family history. It was a great day. Since they lived in a rural area, their pastime was hunting in the nearby wilderness. A couple of cousins suggested a trip the next day so we all could spend time and get to know each other better. They wanted to show us their gun collection. They had a gun safe that they opened so we could see our weapon options for the next day. I noticed that it used a biometric fingerprint lock. I had not seen one before. My cousin John said that was the best way to keep young children and would-be intruders safe. There are way too many gun accidents in the home. The gun safe had an internal removable 12 position rack, a silent access mode feature, and was made of black power coated steel—heavy duty indeed. I made note of these features in case I ever wanted to recommend a biometric gun safe to anyone who enjoyed hunting. My family seemed to be experts so I could rely on their choice. It was all in all going to be a very new experience

John said you can keep items stored securely and quickly accessible with a scan of your fingerprint. He loved the removable storage shelves for organizing items. Pre-drilled holes on the back and bottom of the safe let you bolt it securely to a wall or floor using the included hardware. As for the biometric lock system as opposed to a key or a keypad using a code, this was an easy to use system allows you to register fingerprints in seconds.

We thoroughly enjoyed our outing and I learned as much about guns as I did about the safe. Better yet, my newly-found cousins were great companions. It is just like the saying: long lost relatives. We vowed to make a hunting trip an annual event for those who chose to participate. Not everyone is into hunting, but these folks are passionate about it. They love walking about in the woods and the wilds. They had permitted hunting grounds not far from their home. We took their Jeep and loaded it with an assortment of rifles. I was given all the proper instructions prior to usage.

Family is Everything

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If you ask the average person about their priorities, they will say that family is everything. Hands down, this is the answer. Many families have a built-in reciprocal understanding and respect and woe be to those who don’t. Arguments and conflict can never be resolved. It is far better to have a family structure that allows for personal differences and opinions. In my family, it fortunately has always been that way for siblings and parents alike. If someone is requested to help out with an errand, a chore, or a project, you get willing volunteers. When I hear about family feuds and parents and children who never speak, I feel very sorry for them. I would happily go out of my way to do something for anyone in the family in need. If it means taking the car for repairs, so be it. If it means mowing the lawn, I’m there. If it means delivering a package, visiting a friend, attending a meeting, or driving someone to a ball game—yes, I’m there. I look for special things to do to show my love and appreciation for my parents. It’s hard to find something. A gift isn’t what I have in mind. Not long ago we were all discussing how dowdy the house looks and I got the idea that we could repaint it as a family.

I let my parents choose their own house color and trim. It was decided that a two-toned appearance would be ideal. We all chipped in and bought the paint. Then there was the matter of application. You have your choice of brushes, a roller, and an airless paint sprayer. The spray by far would be the fastest way to go. Brushes are good for small areas and a roller for interior walls. I see the professionals use their sprayers and I know for a fact they are right: this is the best mode of repainting a house if you know how to use it.

After a long weekend of group painting, the house was finished and looked fabulous. I tried not to get my parents too involved so it would be a treat for them to stand by and watch only. They made their little comments, “don’t forget this area; don’t forget that one.” Most of the time it was sheer adulation at our expert handiwork. I can’t imagine the days when people used brushed and not airless sprayers. One day someone probably got wise to modern methods. It was a great boon to the house painting industry. It is easy, quick, and functional. It cuts down on valuable time. I like that we own our sprayer so we can do touch ups now and then. Most people borrow them and have to clean them up before you return it. Now we had all the time in the world to attend to such matters. We just had to take a break from admiring our skill.

I Love My Dog, But…

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I love the commercial for Swiffer projects that shows a little white dog named Lulu whose hair practically floats the owner says. It is all over the house and under the chairs and the sofa. It is thick as dust. The owner discovers that cleaning it up just takes a wet mop that suddenly arrived at the front door sent by Swiffer. Don’t we all relate to this scenario? So many of our dogs shed volumes of hair no matter how much we brush them on a regular basis. Many breeds shed and you might want to explore what kinds are the worst. A dog is man’s best friend but he requires a lot of care and effort. If you want a clean house, don’t get one who sheds like my pet husky. He is my constant companion. I love him dearly but there is a price to pay. Part of the price is a new vacuum cleaner that is light weight and portable enough to carry around to get all the hair in nooks, crannies, and corners. And believe me, like the TV commercial, the hair goes everywhere.

A dog may be man’s best friend, but the vacuum is my home’s best friend right now, more than my new electric grill. The housekeeper can stop complaining now that I have a vacuum for pet hair to resolve the biggest problem she was always moaning about. What do people do who have more than one dog? The hair gets on shelves and the surface of the furniture. It takes constant dusting or it stays visible. You could write your name in it. But the bulk of it is on the floor where the vacuum part of the process comes into play. I can easily switch attachments so I can go from wood floor to tile in seconds. The carpet also needs a once over even though the pet hair doesn’t show as much there. But trust me, it is.

Pet hair is all part of owning an indoor dog or even a cat. While most animals like to be outside all the time and love long walks, they also want to be your companion when you are home. Some get so excited at your arrival that they roll around on the nice clean floor. You put up with it. It’s your beloved pet and you missed him, too. A good vacuum saves the day. You don’t have to get the most expensive and elaborate model, just one powerful enough to suck up the hair. You probably will have to empty the bag or the inside of the machine quite often so the pet hair doesn’t not over accumulate and spill out re-soiling the floor. Okay, as I said, it takes work. Who would get rid of a pet they adored just because they had to vacuum a couple times a week. You can do it in a jiffy—ten minutes tops.

Creating a Good Home Workspace

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I love to do genealogical research and have created a home office for such a purpose along with all the other online projects I undertake. I like privacy and quiet while I work and great natural lighting. When I work during the day, the bright sun shines through the window and stimulates my mind. At night I have a floor lamp near my computer station and there is also an overhead fixture with a dimmer if that isn’t enough. I had given great thought to what I needed and where it was to go. The printer needed da stand and I desired shelves for storage. My desk has drawers for software and odds and ends. I have a container filled with pens and pencils so they are always within reach. What lacks is a touch of luxury. If I want something to eat or drink, I have to get up and go to the kitchen and raid the fridge.

So I decided to refashion my home office and make the workspace more comfortable. One of the big requirements was having the printer within closer reach. All the mistakes I made with the first workspace were going to be corrected. A big plus was to add a beer fridge so a cool brew would be readily on hand when I needed it. When you are deep into research, it is wonderful to sit back, take a break, and relax. The fridge was an inspiration I got from visiting the man cave of a friend. We were watching football and all of a sudden I had a beer in my hand. Now that is luxury and this is what my room needed. You don’t even have to have guests to merit a beer fridge. It can be just for you. Why not make life a bit more comfortable and enjoyable, especially when you are active doing something you are accustomed to doing.

The beer fridge is not huge and it fits nicely in a corner of the closet where I had cleared out some space by moving some storage boxes to the garage. It holds plenty of beer so I don’t often refill it. How many people have such an item in their home office? I venture to guess not too many. Now I am ready to say that my remodeling project is complete. I have everything I want. I reconfigured the location of the computer and printer and made storage items on the shelves above easier to reach. It is a room of convenience and functionality. Now I can go back to my genealogy and find out more interesting facts about my family’s history. They all love the information and gobble up every detail and photo I find. I am compiling the history so it is in a form easy for people to consume. It is my number one favorite pastime and no doubt will remain as such for some time. Once I got started, I was hooked.

When You Hit a Dead End

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When You Hit a Dead End

Unfortunately, many family history searches hit a dead end or two.  This is especially common when families moved overseas, or when you are tracing a maternal line somewhere and she got married and changed names. When this happens, don’t despair. You have a few options.

You can do what I tend to do: leave it and go to another branch of the tree if you have other avenues to explore. Sometimes by tracing a sibling, you can surreptitiously find the information you were missing. More than once I have found the married name of a daughter or sister through an obituary, or the occasional cemetery plot location—people do tend to want to be buried near loved ones.

You can look in places people typically don’t: prison records. Military enlistment or pension records. Newspaper articles, especially marriage, death, or birth announcements. Society pages. Archive Finder. Anything might supply a clue. If you have access to personal effects, look in attics and trunks. Check things like bibles. Read old letters and look up any names or addresses you locate. Even if you feel like you are grasping at straws, there is the potential for it to lead you in the right direction.

Try alternate spellings, especially the further back you go. Some things were taken by dictation, and the way I spell Moseley may not necessarily be the way the census taker wrote it down when he visited my U.S. cousins and wrote it down back in 1930, making it seem as if they didn’t exist. Keep an eye out for these idiosyncrasies, especially if your name doesn’t sound the way it is spelled, or if you suspect relatives went through Ellis Island. Or, as terrible as this sounds, if your last name sounds very generic—Smith, or White, or something like that, it is possible that it was changed from a more “ethnic” sounding name during a war or for other reasons.

Some people do DNA testing to give them more of an idea on where to look when nationality might be a question. It can help, but remember that it is only as good as the DNA database the company has (in other words, if you are part Cherokee Indian and they do not have any identified Cherokee Indian on record, then they won’t know that is part of your genetic makeup). So do your homework on the company and don’t just go with the cheapest option or the one with the fastest turnaround time.

If you have the money and the time, travel to the place your trail ends. There might be information locally that you can get access to, whether it be talking to actual living relatives in the location, or maybe a church or library who does not have their town newspapers online accessible. If this isn’t feasible for you, at least call the local branch library. They might be willing to do some of the digging for you.

When you’re really stuck, you can hire a professional genealogist. They usually have specialties, and may have better contacts to access the type of records you will need to fill in those missing pieces.

Good luck, and I hope this helps!

Interesting Discovery Today!

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A genealogical gold mine can sometimes be found in old family effects. I’ve gone through many of my family’s old belongings now in the hands of various cousins, but my mother has been resisting me a little. I have been begging her to go through my grandfather’s things. They are all up in the attic of her home and have at least six years’ worth of dust covering them.I know that his death was hard on my mom, and I totally understand and respect that. She would rather not touch his stuff, which I also understand. I’ve offered to do it instead, but she claims that she wants to do it so she can part with whatever she doesn’t want anymore. She keeps telling me that she will head up there to check everything out and then gets sidetracked with whatever else is going on. But she finally went up today and called me immediately.She found my great-grandmother’s bible, hidden inside a folded tablecloth in a chest of my grandfather’s stuff. This bible is something various family members have been searching for going back a while now, so it was nice to finally have it in our sights again.

My great-grandmother hada few obituaries pressed in between the first few pages of the bible. Luckily, she had saved one about an aunt whom I had not been able to locate. It turned out that everything had been stacked against me: apparently she had gotten married and moved. To my complete delight, my mother said she had also written down a family tree that went back four generations (and ahead all the way to my mother, it would seem). I was able to confirm some guesses thanks to the dates she had written down, and eliminate one or two suspected relatives who no longer fit the criteria. My mom promised to send some pictures because she knows how much I love to see research materials written in the person’s own handwriting—there’s something about it that just makes family history come alive for me, especially when I did not have the opportunity to meet the person in question. I feel like you can learn a lot about someone based on their writing, through their penmanship, word choice, and what they chose to write about and/or save.

But there was something else tucked into the pages of that bible. My great-grandfather’s proposal! It seems he sent her a telegraph while travelling back from the war that read, “Coming home. Buy a dress and I’ll meet you at the church.” My mom was quick to broadcast that story around to members of the family, and everyone thought it was both pretty typical of my not-very-subtle great grandfather and very plausible because it seems to correspond to family “legends” as well.

This was a surprising and interesting piece of information. I’m going to make a digital copy of the telegram the next time I am at mom’s house so that it can be preserved for future generations.

Online Resources to Try

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If you want to do some research into your family history, the internet has become a powerful tool to help you. It cuts down on countless hours of legwork and untold savings in travel expenses. Some websites charge a membership fee and others don’t. Some libraries subscribe to these databases so you can use their machines to look up information and print out whatever you find, which may mitigate any costs involved. You have to do your homework and see what options you have.

As for the subscription sites, they compile everything quite nicely into one search engine. They are fairly easy to use and there are some options with the price point. Some come with a trial membership. So if you have two weeks and want to work out as much research as possible in that time, as long as you make your own copies of everything you find, you might get away with not having to pay. might be the only way to access many of the UK census records, so keep that in mind. Most, however, will let you create a family tree that will help you link to the work of others as well as allow potential relatives to contact you for an information exchange. Some good options are:

You may be able to find copies of some documents online for free, but it does depend on what you’re looking for and how old it is. The National Archives website has some searchable information about military service, wills, and naturalization information. They also have a lot of government documents. Some of these things are available online and others you would have to go to the building in Kew to see. If you can’t get it off their website, they do have many research guides online that can give you some pointers on what to look for and where you might be able to access it. Many charity sites are transcribing old information and it is a long, tedious, and ongoing process with the potential for transcription errors. But if you are lacking in funds and can’t travel to every parish in question, it is a worthwhile option to investigate. Some good sites: is an ongoing birth, marriage, and death certificate index project. They often have scans of the documents they used to base the transcription on, so you can confirm the information or correct it if necessary. You will be able to locate the index number of the certificate you are looking for, which you can then order through the General Register Office. has an impressive list of documents, as well as the GRO index. If you have relatives who went to India, this is a good place to start.

The Ministry of Defence website has forms available for download if you are trying to locate old military records from 1920 onward; they will give you only some information when you do not have permission or are not a direct next of kin if it has been less than 25 years; they are a little more free with the information the older the record is. There are some restrictions, so be sure to read the website carefully and fill out the correct form. This also costs money, so be sure that when you mail in your request, you also submit payment.

Hope these sites will get you started or help you if you get stuck! Good luck!

World War I Documents

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World War I

World War I can be a tough one to research, unfortunately, I have discovered the hard way. It was so long ago that it is hard for personal documents—without great care having been taken for their preservation—to have lasted this long. Access to survivors, if there are any left, would be minimal and likely widely impractical. Interviews may survive, but may have nothing to do with the person or persons you are looking for. Of course, there was also the fact that the War Office was bombed during the second war. Many of the service records kept from the previous war were destroyed, and most of the information left is pulled from pension requests, so that can be a problem if the person you are looking for died either during the war or before they were able to request a pension. Unless they were Household Cavalry, then you are likely fine, as long as you don’t mind making a written request to view them and then going to the Cavalry Museum in Berkshire to see it. Some of the Guard Regimens also had records destroyed, but you have to contact the individual regime in question in order to see if your record was one of them. These records form two indexes, the “burnt documents” and “unburnt documents” such as the pension records.

The National Archives has most of what’s left on microfilm, accessible at their location in Surrey. If you cannot get there, never fear. They granted access rights to and, and with a subscription, you can see the same documents without any traveling. Plus you can search for the people you are looking for first, for free. Saves you a trip if your family member was part of the burnt records.

However, even if the record you need was destroyed in the bombing, you have some other choices, as long as you think logically. The London Gazette has had a longstanding tradition of publishing every military appointment as well as awards, and most were eligible for some type of acknowledgement. You can visit the Imperial War Museum in London and look for it there, or search the archive online through the Gazette site. You can try your hand this way to locate someone and verify that they served. Also, the Medal Rolls themselves survived, and can provide a lot of information (although it does depend on how thorough the person who filled out the card felt like being at the time). Those have been digitized and scanned, so they are searchable and viewable on These cards are considered a much more accurate representation of men and women who served, again the logic being that most people qualified for something during their time in service.

If you are finding yourself stuck for information during this time period, you are not alone. I would consider purchasing a reference guide to help or hiring a genealogy expert who has experience finding records of people who served in World War I. It can be difficult, but if you think outside the box enough, it is not impossible. Keep digging, and good luck.

Learning from Family History

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I started getting interested in family history as a young boy. I have a large extended family and was always hearing about some relative’s exploits. I would have to ask, “Who is this? And how are we related?” and have someone try to break down the relationship for me.On the long car rides home, I would transcribe as much of each story as I could remember so that I could keep it all straight. I was always trying to understand why my relatives acted the way they did and if I would be such a carefree risk-taker when I grew up. I was desperate to know if was going to inherit my Aunt Lenore’s “travel itch” or become whatever an alcoholic was like Uncle Louis, or hefty in size like my cousin Big George. I got older and it fell by the wayside, first because it wasn’t nearly as cool to brag about your crazy family as a teenager and then because I went to university. I was too far away from my family, so I didn’t see them as much. My parents kept me fairly up to date, but many of the real legends had passed away by then, and some previously lauded behaviors started becoming “unseemly.” I studied more serious things, but nothing absorbed my mind nearly as much as those stories did when I was a child. Without that personal touch, it was all just facts. Disappointed, I got my degree in history and moved on. Then I got engaged, and I thought, “What better way to learn about my new family than creating a family tree?” Together with my fiancée, Emily, we dug into mountains of research and put together a combined family tree that went back several generations. We unveiled it at the wedding and it was quite a crowd pleaser. It definitely brought people together on a day that was designed to do just that.

By learning details about our families’ pasts, my wife and I have discovered several health problems that could be hereditary, which gives us a better idea of what might be coming down the line. I don’t think my wife is destined to get breast cancer just because her grandmother and great aunt did, but she can bring it up to her practitioner so that she maybe can start screening her earlier. Appendicitis to run in my family, which is something for me to keep an eye on. It’s just helpful information to have.

It also makes history more personal. I had a cousin who was a fighter pilot in World War II. My wife is related to an American who lost all his money in their stock market crash of 1929. We both had family who fought in World War I. Now those things have a more personal significance. I might not be interested in every battle of the first world war, but I am curious to do more research about the locations where our families served and what events took place there.

A shared family history also connects us to much more people than we realized. We have relatives scattered all over the globe. We’ve contacted a few of them and are attempting to contact more. A huge family reunion seems likely in the future. We hope to either use either a central location that is close to as many of us as possible or maybe we’ll choose a location that is appealing to the majority, like a nice beach or exotic city. The possibilities are endless.